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WHAT IS LOVE?

THE MEANING OF LO  The Meaning of love BASED ON THE EXPERTS

Various scientists and philosophers have long tried to define love. There is no formula to define the meaning of love. Which can be defined is the understanding of love from various perspectives of life. Here are some meanings of love from famous thinkers:

- According to M. Scott Peck, an American psychiatrist and author of The Road Less Traveled, the meaning of love is a humans' desire to develop themselves and to maintain their spiritual growth or spiritual development of others.

- The definition of love according to Quraish Shihab, a national Muslim figure, is the tendency of the human heart for something or someone because of the pleasure or benefits that can be obtained from the loved ones.

- Love as a feeling of soul and human turmoil that drives a person to love his lover with tenderness, passion, and affection is defined by Abdullah Nashih 'Ulwan, a legendary Muslim figure from Syria.

- According to Erich Fromm, a psychology professor from Germany, five processes shape love: recognition, feeling, responsibility, attention, and mutual respect.

THE CHARACTERS OF LOVING SOMEONE

Based on the definition of love according to experts from various perspectives, here are five characteristics that you have found the feeling of love for someone. These five things must be fulfilled to conclude that the feeling you are experiencing is love.

1. THE FEELING OF HAPPINESS AND YOU ALSO WANT TO MAKE HIM HAPPY

The feeling of happiness to be near or to interact with someone is one sign that there is a feeling of love in you. Especially when you see your partner happy, you feel happy too. Therefore, you also feel that you always want to make him happy.

2. A SENSE OF INTEREST/ADMIRATION

This does not only relate to physical, but also non-verbal. Physical attraction describes an interest or impressions you have towards someone and his achievements. Meanwhile, admiration is more to non-verbal things that make you impress, such as his sense of humor or his helpful nature.

3. A SENSE TO CARE AND TO GIVE ATTENTION

Do you always want to be notified immediately as he arrives at his destination? Or, you often ask what food he wants? Those attentions, which generally continue because you have a desire to try to fulfill or to just make him feel comfortable, are signs that you are in love.

4. MAKING SACRIFICES

Sacrifice between parents and children is a common thing. Likewise, couples, who love each other, are willing to sacrifice for their partner, simple or major. For example, when the husband gave up his permanent job to move to another city following his wife who will continue her education.

5. BRINGING UP GOODNESS

Loving someone positively means you feel good things in yourself too. It is shown by better words and deeds you express, as well as more self-confidence.

In addition to the five features above, an important point to remember is that love must be both ways. Both of you and him must feel the same way to be able to become a couple who are mentally and physically attached.

5 Secrets To Find Real Love

How do you set the foundation to attract this kind of love in your life? Here are 5 secrets to get you started:

1. Be authentic. To find real love, you must first emphasize your true self. If you want someone to love you through your moments of imperfection, you must first be willing to do that for someone else. Be real with yourself, so you are ready for someone else's authenticity.
   
   What really makes you happy? What do you really want out of life? It’s easy to get caught in a pattern of pleasing others, and doing what seems popular or "normal" at the time. If you shift your personality, passions, or purpose to appease another person, you are not being your true self. People are attracted to authenticity. Get to know yourself, love yourself, and learn to act and speak authentically.
    
2. Be your best self. Though opposites can attract, you must first understand that "like attracts like." You set the caliber for the individual you want to spend your life with. You wouldn't look for a lethargic, gluttonous, stingy complainer with ketchup stains on their shirt, so identify ways to clean up your own act first.
   
   Do you want to spend your days with a healthy person who takes care of their body? Then lace up those sneakers and get to the gym yourself! Do you want to surround yourself with a person who sees the best in people and situations? Then stop complaining! Do you want to find someone who strives to live each day with grace, joy, purpose. and integrity? You get the idea. . .
    
   
3. Be confident. Be confident in yourself, your decisions, and your ability to attract love into your life. If you are being your authentic, best self, this confidence will radiate from you in a glow of self-worth. You will attract someone who recognizes, appreciates, and loves who you are.
   
   Foster this confidence by knowing that you are whole and complete just by being you. Understand that a soul mate is nice to have, but not a must-have. You, alone, are enough.
    
4. Be open. If your desire is to meet someone new, then you must be willing to connect and open up with the people around you. If someone next to you in the coffee line strikes up a conversation, be willing to engage. Even if that person is not to be the love of your life, practice openness anyway. Developing this energy of openness will help you facilitate iterations that may lead to lasting relationships.
    
5. Be happy. Perhaps the most important secret of this list is to be happy. Everyone wants to be around happy people; happiness is magnetic. So focus your energy on thinking about and doing the things that make you happy.